A Letter to the Single Girls on Valentine's Day - Sivan

A Letter to the Single Girls on Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day! This holiday can feel forced as f*ck and honestly, I’ve never been a huge fan. Is anyone though? Even in a relationship, there is pressure, busy ass restaurants, cheesy cards…you know what I’m talking about. Paul and I usually go the easy route and chill at home but I’m very aware that this can be a hard holiday for single people. I have plenty of girlfriends who I’ve witnessed struggle through shitty relationships and then feel bad about themselves when that relationship ends.

More so than ever, with Instagram and people constantly sharing their “perfect relationships,”  there’s this added pressure on women to be in a relationship. Even behind all the strides women are making, feeling like you’re the only single one in the world sucks. There’s no way around it. But what I think single people forget is that the grass isn’t always greener. People on Instagram are full of shit; their relationship isn’t perfect. No relationship is. Especially not mine.

Paul and I fight all the time. We have good times and bad times. I easily want to kill him at least once a week and he feels the same about me. I’m beyond grateful for him in my life (OBVIOUSLY), but he doesn’t “complete me” or any of that bullshit we’ve learned from movies and the Internet. YOU are the only person responsible for that.

So as you get served Valentine’s Day ads and Instagram posts from people who don’t show the real side of relationships, brush that shit off. This is just another day – keep doing you. My advice (if you do feel shitty about it), is to do something that makes you feel good tonight…like actually good. Here are ideas:

+ Make an inspiration board on Pinterest. See what’s inspiring me lately here.

+ Write out 10 things you’re grateful for. It works.

+ Call someone you’ve been meaning to catch up with.

+ Buy yourself something you’ve been eyeing. Lots of ideas on this page.

+ Clean out your closet.

+ Watch your favorite movie from the ’90s.

+ Go to a workout class or out dancing with friends.

+ Make this Galentine’s Day cocktail.

+ Bake yourself cookies.

+ Take a break from social media.

+ List out 10 of your best qualities.

+ Create a new playlist.

+ Learn how to do your hair or makeup. I’ve shared TONS of tutorials.

+ Organize your fridge or an area that’s been stressing you the F out.

+ Send someone a handwritten note.

+ Chat with other girls in the private Facebook group and share the worst date you’ve ever been on. I’ll try to join in and share mine.

Are you single or IAR?